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How To Build Your Self Confidence
One of the most important steps to achieving your goals in life is to develop a
strong sense of self confidence. This does not however involve becoming loud or
arrogant. On the contrary, people with genuine self confidence are usually calm
and self assured and do not need to 'big note' themselves.
Here are my top ten tips for building your self confidence:
1. Visualise Yourself As The Person You Want To Be
Each morning spend a few minutes visualising yourself as the person you want to
be. Think about the way you dress, the way you carry yourself and the way you
interact with other people. Seeing yourself as the person you want to become is
the first step towards building self confidence.
2. Self Confidence Statement
After visualising yourself as the person you want to be, read the following
statement out loud:
"I know I have the ability to achieve my major goal in life. Therefore today,
I demand of myself persistent and continuous action towards achieving my goal"
Reading this statement out loud is a great way to start your day in a confident
state of mind.
3. Dress Well
One of the most effective ways to instantly improve your level of self
confidence is to dress well and to make the decision to always be well groomed.
This does not mean you have to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe.. Instead,
just focus on gradually building up a small collection of good quality clothes.
Also remember that simple accessories such as a tie clip or necklace can make a
big difference to the way you look and feel.
4. Positive Posture
Another powerful way to build your sense of self confidence is to stand up
straight and lose the slouch that many of us have acquired over the years. While
you may be able to make a change to your posture by simply becoming aware of it,
the best way to make a long lasting change to your posture is to practice yoga
or pilates.
5. Move With Purpose
A simple but effective tip for increasing your levels of self confidence is to
always move with a sense of purpose. In his book 'The Magic of Thinking Big',
David Schwartz recommends walking 25% faster than normal. Having a spring in
your step lets people know that you have important things to do and actually
makes you feel more confident as you go about your daily business.
6. Become A Participant
Have you ever noticed that in most meetings or groups, people immediately head
towards the back of the room so that they can remain as inconspicuous as
possible? A great way to increase your visibility and sense of self confidence
is to make the decision to always sit towards the front of the room and be a
participant. When you have something to say - don't be afraid to say it.
7. Connect With Confidence
Another way to quickly improve your self confidence is to practice making a
strong first impression. When you meet someone face-to-face, look them directly
in the eye, smile broadly, shake hands firmly and say, "Hi Jim, nice to meet
you".
Similarly, you can sound more confident on the phone by answering, "Good morning
Carol Jones speaking" instead of simply saying "Hello"
8. Build Your Success File
Occasionally your self confidence will take a hit when something doesn't work
out the way you hoped. One of the best ways to repair your self confidence in
this situation is to keep a folder outlining your past achievements and
successes. You should also include any positive feedback that you've received
from others.
As you review your success file and fill your mind with positive comments, your
doubts and insecurities will quickly disappear and your self confidence will be
restored.
9. Preparation
The BIG secret to being self confident that people rarely talk about is -
preparation. The more you prepare and practice for an event, the more self
confident you will become.
If you are worried about an upcoming event, use your apprehension as a stimulus
to take action and practice, practice, practice. The simple but powerful truth
is that self confidence grows through repetition and experience.
10. Toastmasters
My final tip for developing self confidence is to join a Toastmasters group.
Toastmasters is a non-profit organisation that helps people from all walks of
life to develop their public speaking and leadership skills. In my experience
Toastmasters offers a safe and relaxed environment to step out of your comfort
zone and develop the invaluable skills of being able to think on your feet and
speak in public.
So there you have it!
If you implement some or all of these 10 techniques you'll gradually develop a
greater sense of self confidence which in turn will help you to pursue and
achieve your most important life goals.
Until next time,
Dare To Dream!
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