You know what you want and need.
Put yourself first.
You can’t be anything for anybody else
unless you take care of yourself.
Let your feelings be known.
They are important.
Express your opinions.
It’s good to hear yourself talk.
Value your thinking.
You do it well.
Take the time and space you need.
Even if other people are wanting something from you.
When you need something, don’t talk yourself out of it.
Even if you can’t have it, it’s ok to need.
When you are scared, let someone know.
Isolating yourself when you’re scared makes it worse.
When you feel like running away,
let yourself feel the scare.
Think about what you fear will happen
and decide what you need to do.
When you’re angry,
et yourself feel the anger.
Decide what you want to do.
Just feel it, express it, or take some action.
When you’re sad,
think about what would be comforting.
When you’re hurt,
tell the person who hurt you.
Keeping it inside makes it grow.
When you have work to do and you don’t want to do it,
Decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.
When you want something from someone else, ask.
You’ll be okay if they say no.
Asking is being true to yourself.
When you need help, ask.
Trust people to say no if they don’t want to give.
When people turn you down,
It usually has to do with them, and not with you.
Ask someone else for what you need.
When you feel alone, know there are people
who want to be with you.
Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them.
Decide if you want to make that happen.
When you feel anxious,
let yourself know that in your head.
You’ve moved into the future to something scary
And your body has gotten up the energy for it.
Come back to the present.
When you want to say something loving to someone,
go ahead. Expressing your feeling is not a commitment
When someone yells at you, physically support yourself
By relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor.
Remember to breathe.
Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.
When you’re harassing yourself, stop.
You do it when you need something.
Figure out what you need and get it.
When everything seems wrong,
You are overwhelmed and need some comforting.
Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.
When you want to talk to someone new and are scared,
breathe. Don’t start rehearsing, just plunge in.
If it doesn’t go well, you can stop.
If you’re doing something you don’t like to do,
(such as smoking or overeating), Stop.
Think about what you really want.
If you’re stuck and can’t think clearly,
talk out loud to someone.
When you can’t think straight,
Stop thinking. Feel.
When you’re in need of love, reach out.
There are people who love you.
When you’re confused, it’s usually because you think you should
Do one thing and you want to do another.
Dialogue with yourself or present both sides to a friend.
When you feel harried, slow down.
Deliberately slow your breathing, your speech, and your movements.
When you have tears, cry.
When you feel like crying and it’s not a safe place to cry,
Acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later.
Keep your promise.
When everything seems gray,
look for color.
If one of these rules seems wrong for you,
talk about it with someone. Then, rewrite it so it fits you.
Remember, Be Good To Yourself!